It’s amazing to me how many people give so much to others with the expectancy of nothing in return (as it should be), yet still walk around empty, needing nourishment themselves. Self gratification comes from assisting others, but what do you do when you have given all you can, when there is nothing left to give? How do you go about fulfilling the promise that is within you? Who do you depend on for encouragement, reassurance, love?
If you go about looking for the things that were mentioned from other people, trust me, you’ll be looking forever! But when you finally look inward, and begin acknowledging the greatness that has been fearfully and wonderfully placed together, resulting in the complex yet intriguing creation that is you, life becomes a little more interesting…
1. Know who your CREATOR is!
Just like the desire of companionship that you carry, your Creator desires for you to know who He is! And what better way to do that than to read from His living Word. 1 John 4:10 states, “This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.” Meditating on His word daily, knowing how He feels about you, is what causes a fulfillment that cannot be exhausted.
The world has a way of reminding you of everything that you’re not, and so many people fall prey to that. Societal standards should not be your resource in becoming a better you. By matching yourself to what God has already spoken over your life, you have no choice but to become all that you were designed to be, and that is simply amazing!
2. Know who YOU are!
When getting to know your Creator, getting to know who YOU are is second nature, but just as you spend time reading The Word, you have to take time to honestly know yourself, not who people think you should be. As cliché as it sounds, figure out your likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses., etc…If there are things that you dislike about yourself, understand why. You can either learn to accept the beauty in what you perceive as a deficiency, or if you have the ability to change what you feel should be different (hair, weight, residence, career), challenge yourself! The most important aspect in this process is to love yourself regardless and understand that, ‘if you can learn to love yourself and all the flaws, you can love other people so much better. And that makes you so happy.’ —Kristin Chenoweth
Making yourself priority is not selfish, it’s key. By doing so you are better equipped to serve, so make it a journey! Create a journal of your process, try new things, visit new places, meet new people, improve your craft, learn to comfortably experience life without the dependency of validation from others. Seriously, have fun! One thing that I enjoyed during my, ‘I’m big kickin’ it, one seata!’ stage was going to concerts…alone! I had THE most fun because I would always attract the coolest people I could have ever met. I didn’t go with the intentions of meeting people. I went to enjoy myself, so how I felt entering the situation was what came back to me. How you feel is what you’ll attract. How you love others is a reflection of how you love yourself so getting to know who you are and loving that person is more important than you think.
Once a week, make time for you. What is something that you’ve always wanted to try, but because of whatever reason, you laid it aside? Invest in what your Creator already has! Invest in you!